So here I am in week five . First off it was William Buckley that had the quote I am living by and not old Harry Stack. I still believe “Industry is the Enemy of Melancholy”. I just have to not get too crazy about it. Our breakfast club is still meeting weekly. It’s nice just to kick back and talk. My wife is still working and around 1 or 2 in the afternoon I run out of things to do. When she’s home she will always think of something – and sometimes that’s great and sometimes it isn’t. I cant wait until she is around more tho.
Our trip to the British Isles and the “Auld Sod” is rapidly approaching and I am looking forward to that. I’ve been to Canada twice and Mexico once so this should be an adventure. We are renting a car for part of this and that is daunting but doable .
I am getting over the therapist part. I don’t think of patients much any more (except one). I wish I could help her but if I make any contact I think it will just make it worse by not letting her establish with her new counselor.
I remember one of the staff at the family institute saying that we are great at connecting and helping, but the good bye part is still a really difficult thing to do. He said then that he was not sure he had ever heard of anyone doing it well. He would tell a story about his children at a birthday party. They would always cry when it was time to leave. He tried to change that , instead of the kids saying good bye, they would all wave “Hello” while waking backwards . I don’t think it would have been possible for me. I would have been followed.
Maybe the ‘amputation’ is still the best way . It still bothers me tho